Some of the most common reasons for therapy are related to romantic relationship problems. When relationships are marked by addictive behaviour, loneliness, anger, or sadness/depression, one can benefit greatly from professional help to either repair the relationship or find the courage to move on.
Often, romantic relationship problems begin with blaming the other person, “he or she made me feel this way” or “he or she did this to me.” Both statements have problems: First, nobody can make you feel anything. As the saying from Eleanor Roosevelt goes, “nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” People say and do things, and then we react – but we have tremendous power (even though it may not always seem true), to control our responses. Viktor Frankl says, “between stimulus and response, there is a space, and in that space lies our freedom.”
